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April 27, 2020

Women With Disability Can Be Sexy Too!

Deanna Hay

Women With Disability Can Be Sexy Too!


Deanna Hay

Deanna talks about exploring fitness and sexuality with Cerebal Palsy.

My name is Deanna and my one of biggest passions in life is to celebrate and appreciate individuality. I am 31 years of age and I was born with Cerebral Palsy. This label does not define who I am, but it allows me to explore aspects of self that I may not have otherwise. Living with a different ability can at times come with its challenges but it should never prevent you from living your dreams. I want to inspire others and show the world that anything is possible. I would love for you to dream big about your life and share your own unique light to the world.

I have a super-hot set of wheels that assist me to get to where I need to go. I love to travel and have been to Hong Kong, Vietnam, Thailand and the USA. I love to keep fit and healthy and attend a gym program once a week that assists me with my mobility. I have a You Tube channel where I share my work outs. You can check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA7SUfBBkrjcPAhtsBHTWrA

Please feel free to follow my workouts if you feel that they could assist you or anyone that you may know. 

I am truly passionate about breaking down the barriers and stereotypes of what a disability looks like and what someone can and cannot do. I want to feel sexy and beautiful as I am sure everyone does and it saddens me that women with a disability are not often seen in lingerie or is something that is portrayed as not being sexy. I want to be able to break down these barriers that as a society we have created. 

There is an unfair and unrealistic stigma attached to sexuality and people with a disability. I am on an online platform and once men know that I have a disability they stop talking to me. I want to change this stigma. People with disability have a right to feel desired and sexy.

For so much of my life I was bullied and treated unfairly because of my disability. I am in a place now where I do not allow the opinions of others to define who I am. On the contrary, my experiences have taught me is to believe in who I am and the message I have to share with world.

I want all women with disability to have the confidence to do the same. If you are reading this, I would like to task you to think of some key words that you want to be your message to others.

Mine are:





Photo of Deanna wearing a red dress.
Image above: Photo of Deanna wearing a red dress.

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Life Choices
Taking Part
Sex and Your Body
Safety and violence

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